Hooked Up Online For The First Time? Next-Day Tips To Improve Your Free Hookup Game.
Should You Stay or Should You Go?
Did you recently hook up with somebody for the first time? Hookups can bring about strong feelings, depending on how well things go in bed. Regardless, you can play it safe by following this step-by-step post-hook up guide. Do you stay for coffee, suggest round two, or head for the hills?
These steps are intended to decrease any major feelings of attachment, while still helping you keep things real.
1. Resist the urge to cuddle
Leave the cuddling for committed couples. You don’t want to walk away feeling too attached and desperate for more. If it happens again, great. But if not, you’re going to feel disappointed. Check your text messages, browse the Internet, or strike up a conversation during that period immediately following the hookup. Just don’t automatically resort to cuddling.
2. No lengthy good-byes
You may leave that night, or you may leave the next morning. Either way, try not to make a big scene and leave your partner with a long good-bye. By a long good-bye, we mean a make-out session, a big hug, or an intimate conversation on when you’ll see each other next. Give a peck on the cheek if things went well – other than that, don’t sweat the good-bye much.
3. Send a brief text message
We mean it when we say brief. No paragraph-long responses describing every last moment of the sexual encounter. Just something short and snappy, perhaps dropping a hint that you want to do it again. But if you’re on the fence, or you really don’t want to have sex with this person again, a message isn’t really necessary.
If you were friends with the person you hooked up with, great – things can stay that way. But you don’t have to be best friends just because you hooked up. If you were just acquaintances or even strangers, there’s no need to be friends at all, unless you see some great need for things to go in that direction.
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